Relationship - Rejection

Rejection can be an awful feeling regardless of the source. No one likes to be rejected but at some point or time in your life you may have or will experience it. If you live long enough, it is inevitable that it will happen to you. It may be from a job you applied for, or it may be from a potential spouse you have been pursuing. Either way, the feeling of knowing that someone does not find you suitable can be a devastating feeling and the intensity can be magnified depending on how much you have invested. Most times than not though, when you are rejected your first inclination is to think that it is a negative reflection on you.

For some you may feel a sense of failure followed by questions of why you didn't make the cut, especially if there is no real explanation for the decision. For example, you may have received a vague letter from that potential employer that simply said, “After careful consideration we have decided to go with another candidate.” What does that really mean? Are they saying that you didn't interview well, or that you lack the knowledge, skills, and ability to perform the job requirements? Truth is you may never really know what their true reasons were for not selecting you, but instead of making it a bad thing why not turn it into a positive? Perhaps they already had a pre-selected candidate but they went through the motions to satisfy labor laws, or they may have not been prepared to meet your salary requirements. More importantly, perhaps fate has something bigger or better lined up for you.

What if the rejection came from a potential spouse who may have told you or showed you that they were not interested? You may be tempted to think that maybe you were not pretty or handsome enough or that there is something else about you that they did not like. Sometimes it may have more to do with their own insecurities more so than you. Meaning that they may feel that you are too pretty or too handsome and that you may cheat on them because they believe that they don’t have what it takes to keep you interested. Or it can simply be that you really don’t possess the qualities or attributes they are looking for. Again, you may never learn why they have no interest, but instead of thinking the worst why not turn it into a positive? It could be that they realized that you are not someone they can easily get over on or play around with so they opted not to pursue you. Or they may realize that they don’t have what it takes or are not on the same level as you. Whatever the reason people have for not selecting you really doesn't matter. What matters is how you perceive it and how you deal with it. If someone does not choose you it’s their lost.

Let’s face it; no one likes to be rejected regardless of the situation. However and quiet frankly, it is not the end of the world. Do yourself a favor and stop trying to figure out why. Instead, why not focus on you? You already know what your strengths and weaknesses are. If you like something about you, embrace it. Don’t like something about you, change it. Develop a set of standards that is a reflection of who you are and stick with it. Don’t allow other people’s perception of you to dictate your feelings. Keep in mind that you may not have control over whether or not you are rejected, but you do have control over how you chose to handle it. Love on yourself and be the best person you know how to be. I’m just saying – I got issues. What about you?)i(

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